How to stop comparing yourself to others while on social media

By: Erika Escamilla

Every week, your phone sends you a detailed overview of your screen time. If you’re like me, that screen time is usually just a bit higher than the week before. With so much content, only one click away, it’s hard to get out of a deep scrolling paralysis. Before you know it, it’s 2:00 am, and you have no recollection of the last 4 hours.

Living in a world of comparison is difficult. Bombarded with images of other’s highlight reel and comparing it to your own can leave us wondering, “am I good enough?”

Photo by Sara Kurfeß on Unsplash

The market of Instagram “influencers” has been booming since 2006. Pictures of aesthetically pleasing lattes and perfectly tailored outfits are plastered across our screen, showing users what the “perfect life” looks like, with not a single flaw in sight.

Ideas like this are dangerous because they can impact our personal wellness. Comparing yourself or your life to someone else’s can cause feelings of self-doubt or insecurity.

So, what can we do to prevent ourselves from feeling this way? Here are three wellness tips you can practice daily to break the habit of comparing yourself to others.

  1. Practice Daily affirmations: One of the best pieces of advice that my aunt gave me was to tell myself three things I like about myself while brushing my teeth. Doing this will start your day off with some self-confidence and may even boost your overall mood. It will also shift the focus from what you don’t like about yourself to things you do.

2. Avoid mindless scrolling: Try your best to avoid scrolling for hours on hours. Studies show that time on social media increases thoughts of depression and envy. The best tip is to use social media purposefully. Think about the kinds of content you want to see and the kinds you don’t. Keeping your scrolling to a minimum can save yourself from the trap of comparison.

3. Use comparison as motivation: It is inevitable that while on social media, you are going to compare yourself to others. However, you can shift that thought process into wanting to improve yourself on things that matter most — for example, characteristics such as kindness, outspokenness, or patience. Ask yourself, what do you admire about their character? How can you then make the world a better place? Spending time on these will use comparison to enrich your character and overall mental health.

It’s important to remember that when viewing highlight reels, it is just their highlights. There is a whole different part of their life that you are not seeing. You hold your identity and power within yourself. Shifting your mindset and creating a life that serves you is most important.


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